So, my mom brought over the leopard print bodycon skirt I ordered from Forever21 recently and we went off to visit my aunt and grandma. They were out of the size I would normally get, so I got the size smaller… because shit. I love me a tight skirt. So, I tried it on for them and my aunt’s response was, “I don’t have any room to talk, but you definitely got some junk in your trunk.” At one time in my life I would have taken offense to that and felt really insecure. I took it as a compliment because… I actually like my fat body. And I wish she could love her’s too! It bothers me more that she never ever has felt comfortable in her skin at a size 14 to a size 24 because my grandmother drilled it in her head as a teenager that fat girls can only wear black or solid colors. No pattersn. No mini skirts. I find it exciting that at least in my generation… I can accept myself and show off all of this junk. WITH PRIDE. So, all my girls out there, embrace what you have. This is your body. This is who you are. And love it because it is the vessel that holds something even better… you! Your personality! Your essence. It sounds like some hokey Oprah shit, but I felt so much fucking pride.
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Okay but you’re missing the point. I could try to refute these medical claims but it seems you won’t budge and I’d rather not waste the effort.
To quote Kate Harding:
“Poor nutrition and a sedentary lifestyle do cause health problems, in people of all sizes. This is why it’s so fucking crucial to separate the concept of “obesity” from “eating crap and not exercising.” The two are simply not synonymous — not even close — and it’s not only incredibly offensive but dangerous for thin people to keep pretending that they are. There are thin people who eat crap and don’t exercise — and are thus putting their health at risk — and there are fat people who treat their bodies very well but remain fat. Really truly.”
The point is, we need to stop assessing health based on size because it is not an accurate way of determining one’s health and making such snap judgements is harmful. Every body has the capability to be healthy or start a journey to wellness in the body they have now, and they should have the right to find the level of health they need without bringing their body size or anyone else’s expectations into the equation.
We all live and exist in the bodies we have whether we’re healthy or not, but you can’t make that assessment by simply looking at a person. Fat is in some cases an indicator of poor health, but so is being “too thin”, or looking green or something, or sometimes people look perfectly normal but are perfectly unhealthy.
Your weight doesn’t dictate anything about you, your health or your worth. You do.